"Have you ever put everything you had into a single goal: physically, emotionally and mentally? I did. And I mean, everything.”
A young boy had dreams full of promise. However, tragedies had befallen his family to a point of despair, including untimely grandparent deaths, a drowning, a death from a debilitating disease, suicide, eye surgeries, and the death of a beloved family Beagle by gunshot, to name a few. This was enough to ignite the young boy of not quite 12, the grandson of southwest West Virginia coal miners, to the point of rage. A passion, an idea instead, had been born to lift himself and his family above the tragedies to a better life. The young boy set his sights on the NFL, with dreams anew. He dedicated everything he had, his life, to this goal.
Through his efforts working, lifting and running, the NFL came. Some top professional agents of the day were also swooning the now 300+ pound 22-year old, and top ranked offensive lineman, with the hope of signing a contract prior to the 1993 NFL draft. From a walk-on to an NFL prospect.
However, unbeknownst to the young man, none of this was meant to happen. His dreams and ambitions were going to be dashed and the immense joy would soon turn to sorrow, desperation, and hopelessness. Things unraveled quickly.
At the precipice of attaining his goal, life would spiral out of control. His girlfriend left him; his agent was back peddling; and his bubble would soon burst. Everything had changed. Grades dropping and cutting class, at 22 he went from the top of the mountain to the deepest valley. Stress, depression, despair, fear and physical pain would lead him to his darkest hour. He would not fulfill his dream, would not be able to help his family, and, as a result, he felt his life was coming to an end.
Psalm 34:18-19 “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
From a lost soul laser focused on his one goal, one plan, to scaling the depths of all out despair, the young man was about to begin the process of life-altering change. His mother became his angel. Seeing the despair and pain, and recognizing it for what it was, she led her son to his knees where he could finally hear God say… “I am here.”
Within a couple months after the 1993 NFL draft, change was beginning to permeate his life, most notably evidenced by a 100+ pound weight loss over a 2-month period. But there was much more.
Tim Christian was led to tell his story in Behaviors of Change, where he shares how God changed him and his life, and what he learned to ensure his recalibrated life change was permanent.